Before Shad and I even met Ted (and Sue) came into his life and taught him some valuable life principles in finance and also in relationships. When Shad and I started dating I first met Ted and Sue for the first time on Ted's birthday. We took him some pumpkin chocolate chip cookies and cider. I had heard many good things about this couple and it was a joy to meet them in person. Later in our relationship when Shad wasn't sure that he was ready to move to the next level, aka get married, I remember him going to Ted and Sue's to get advice. I will never forget what he told me. He said that Sue told him that in a relationship of God "it just is" and you can't explain it. I don't know if that was exactly what she said, but I hope the meaning is still the same. He told me how they met (I hope I get this right too). Sue was engaged, but Sue ended up breaking off the engagement and marrying Ted because of "it just was" with Ted. They have been married for 48 years this past November.
On April 22 we received an email from Sue and a phone call from Ted letting us know that earlier in the year Ted was having some pain/health issues. After a few months of it not getting better he went into the doctor to find out he had stage IV colon cancer. He had surgery, but the cancer was too far spread and he was not able to undergo any type of chemo. We learned that he LOVED meatloaf. When we told Ted we were bringing him dinner after his surgery Shad asked him what he wanted and he said meatloaf. That is the last time I saw him alive was went I went and took him his meatloaf a few days after his surgery. On June 22nd Ted passed away. The few weeks leading up to him passing Shad had the opportunity to spend some valuable time with Ted and Sue. Shad was able to see how quickly the cancer took over his body. Shad had some very personal and spiritual moments about death and spirit world that he will never forget. Shad was there a few hours before Ted passed. He recorded a little bit of a lady playing the harp for Ted and his family. It gave me goosebumps watching it. Shad wishes that he could have spent more time with Ted prior to him coming down so sick and passing away. The experiences we have had with loved ones passing away have been spiritual ones. It has reminded us that our bodies really are nothing without our spirits and whatever we choose to make of our spirits in this life is what will carry on into the next.
A week or so ago I was talking to Sue on the phone and I told her that I hope I never have to experience what she is going through, but if I did I want to be able to handle it as well as she is. She told me that the reason why she is doing so well is that she lives what she believes. She also told me she learned from Anne of Green Gables that "to despair is to turn your back on God", and she doesn't want to turn her back on God. Life is going to be different with Ted gone, but she is still going to enjoy her life. Sue really is an amazing lady and we are grateful to have her in our lives.
Ted was a great example to all who knew him. Here is his obituary:
Franklin Theodore “Ted” Hoskins, 68, passed away on June 22, 2012 from colon cancer, diagnosed
April16, 2012. He was born October 18, 1943 in Muncie, Indiana to Woodrow
Thomas and Florence Ethel Tedrow Hoskins. He was the youngest of seven children.
He attended Royerton High School in Muncie, Porter College in Indianapolis, and
Brigham Young University. Ted married Susan Jean Winchel in Muncie on November
8, 1963. They were later sealed in the Salt
Lake Temple. Ted and Sue moved to Provo in the fall of 1964 and from there to
American Fork, Salt Lake City, and have now lived in their Orem home for 35
years.
Ted began his first real job when he was 16,
working for McDonald’s (19¢ burgers). He often recalled that the Muncie
location had the highest sales in the nation. Ted worked for Geneva
Steel/Production Planning in Orem, Sherwin Williams Paint in SLC, Paint West
& Howells in Orem before opening his own store, Ted’s Automotive Paint.
After 16-years in the paint business, he joined WordPerfect Corporation. Later,
he did financial coaching for Money Mastery. He began retirement in 2009 and enjoyed every day of it often
bird watching with Sue on the front porch that he designed and built.
While attending BYU, Ted was introduced to
Kenpo Karate. He formed the Orem Kenpo Karate Club, taught for more than 40
years and attained the rank of Seventh Degree Black Belt. He coached little
league for 11 years, climbed Mt Timpanogos 13 times (07/24/80 with Sue &
Laura) and was an avid basketball player. Hoskins’ hook shot made it past the
tallest of defenders and his 3-pointers were unstoppable. He often went back
into the house with a dirt-spot on his forehead from the 3-pointers he shot in a
driveway pickup.
Ted’s constant sense of humor brought us
comfort in the final days. We’ll
think of him every time we need advice, giggle in church, feed the jays, eat
potato chips, drive fast, rock out to BTO, shoot basketball, eat a polish dog,
or dance in the living room. He always asked us to play “Another One Bites The
Dust” at his passing!
As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints, Ted served in a variety of callings, loved doing temple
work, and was a faithful home teacher.
He had a special connection with the youth and generously shared his
gifts, talents, and knowledge with them. His
remarkable contributions will be remembered fondly by many.
Preceding him in death were his parents and
his sisters Phyllis and Theresa. He is survived by his wife Susan and daughter
Laura (Mike) Zamora of Orem, 4 grandchildren, 2 great grandchildren, 3-sisters
Ethel Eaton of Salt Lake City, Mary Munoz of Pleasant Hill CA, Beverly Hawk of
Muncie IN, and 1-brother Tom (Bonnie) Hoskins of Sierra Vista AZ.
We would like to express gratitude to his
doctors and Hospice that have shown us compassion. We are also touched by
friends and all who have shown so much love and understanding during this time.
Ted requested no flowers or funeral service. Instead,
we will honor him with a
“walk down memory lane” on Thursday, June 28, in the pavilion
of the Aspen Stake Center at 965
W 2000 N in Orem. Please join us any time from 6:00-8:00pm.
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